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Old 01-07-2020, 11:16 AM   #11
Kenton Adler
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It's the bride's day. Ask her.

Some options might be: Pay someone else to pipe, and be the father. You to play out front as guests arrive, then walk her down the aisle as you play a Processional. Play some sort of "special music" during the ceremony. Or lead the couple out as the Recessional. Pipe them to the reception.
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Old 01-07-2020, 11:26 AM   #12
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1. Ask the bride.
2. If pipes, ask a friend to pipe instead. I'd walk her up the aisle, no question.
3. Enjoy the experience!

And congratulations!

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Old 01-07-2020, 04:42 PM   #13
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In my female opinion (which is a little more voracious and stubborn than a male's opinion ),

Pay the piper (pick a good one) and walk her down the aisle.

Pipe your daughter and son-in-law into the reception. What a grand way to announce Husband and Wife have arrived!!
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Old 01-07-2020, 05:46 PM   #14
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Walk the bride down the aisle- no-one else can take the place of the Bride's Father- you caould always pipe later if the couple wishes. I played the recessional march ( one I wrote) as the Groom's Father once, but I wore a suit as befit my role in the ceremony.
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Old 01-07-2020, 06:22 PM   #15
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Only tangentially related:

I hope there aren’t even bagpipes at my funeral. I want people crying for me, not because their ears are bleeding.

So, make for absolute certain your daughter even wants bagpipes. If so, hire somebody so you can focus on your daughter instead of messing around with a drone reed that just fell in the bag and a flat F#. It’s all about the bride, not the bagpipes.
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Old 01-07-2020, 11:45 PM   #16
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Thanks for your remarks.
I acknowledge that i have been firmly put into my place ;
Being a Dad and not a piper
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Old 01-08-2020, 07:11 PM   #17
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Ask your daughter. Personally, I didn't want my Dad to walk me down the aisle when I got married (a bit to paternalistic and old-fashioned for my taste) but if he were a piper (or musician of any sort) I would have loved him to participate in that way.
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Old 01-08-2020, 08:40 PM   #18
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I walked my oldest down the aisle, but we did have two pipers from the band. But I did write them a lovely 6/8 March for their recessional.
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Old 01-08-2020, 09:00 PM   #19
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Being a piper is only part of your life.
Being a father is forever.
C'mon, Dad, you already know the answer.
And Congratulations!

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Old 01-09-2020, 01:56 AM   #20
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As for decorum, the wedding is the daughter's day. The father on her arm is a sedate and distinguished addition to the daughter's day. Heck, the groom on the way out is still an accoutrement to the splendor of the bride's day. Were you to walk down the aisle with her latched to your non bag arm, some might say you were taking attention/admiration away from her.
Pipers will steal attention from coffins, brides, potentates and popes as a natural course of events. We're just that damned interesting. ;)
That's why it's always good for the piper marching a bride down the aisle to position or distance themselves in a way that allows the common folk to tear their eyes from us and focus on the bride. You're a father forever. You're a piper for a good long time. She's only a first time bride once.
Find a fellow piper who you feel is up to snuff to play your own funeral and he may be just good enough to honor the bride on her wedding day.
Before you start fixing problems with your reeds, check to see if the bag or stocks are leaking.
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